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Intimate Insight: Ahab, Indy and Enid- I Found My Holy Grail, My White Whale – My Perfect Bra

21 Dec

Ever since I began learning about all these great lingerie brands made for Tig O’ Bitties like mine, I’ve been drooling over their websites, all the while keeping an eye out for my dream bra – a red balconette style bra in my size that would match my sexy red boy short panties.

Why boy shorts?

In my 20’s I was doing the thong thing, but ever since I bought a six pack of Marks & Spencers black cotton boy shorts on a trip to London, I’ve been hooked on that style. Not only are they comfy, but I find that on a plus size figure, they are much more flattering.

My faves are those Marks & Spencer knickers that first got me hooked, and two sexy styles from Frederick’s of Hollywoodthe Angelina  (being discontinued so get them on clearance while you can) and the lacy Jessica  (stretchy and forgiving.) 

Why red?

Why not? It’s sexy and racy and bold – all characteristics I aspire to take on as I go into 2012 as a newly single gal!

But the key for me – regardless of color – was the style (no full size cups – I want demi balconette all the way) and that it fit well and didn’t drive me to tears by the end of the day. So imagine my delight when Affinitas sent me their Charlotte red balconet bra from their Parfait line to try out.

Parfait by Affinitas Charlotte Bra in Red with Black

I loved the retro style of it when I had first seen it on their website, but worried that this would be a case of a regular size bra being incorrectly up-sized and that I’d end up suffering from a case of “my cup overfloweth” leading to hourly trips to the ladies room to shove myself back into the bra. Some companies – when they try to go into the plus size market- don’t correctly readjust their styles to accommodate a larger breast size. You put a bra on that is supposed to be your size, but then find out that your nipples are constantly popping out and you spend the rest of the day seriously contemplating the use of duct tape to keep your breasts in place.

Imagine my joy when I put it on and found that the girls sat in the cups quite nicely without dangerous overflow issues, even if I leaned over to pick something off the floor or touch my toes. (OK, I lie. I can’t touch my toes quite yet. But I can wave at them.)

And the bra looked amazing!! Sometimes I’ll get frustrated when something I buy in the store doesn’t look nearly as good on me as it does on the model, but for once I think I actually looked better than she did. I was disappointed to have to put a shirt on because I looked so good in that bra! (I was actually humming “Dancing Cheek to Cheek” while I modelled it for myself in the mirror. Heaven… I’m in heaven… )

The bra was so comfortable to wear. The one frustrating thing about underwires is that after 8 hours, that stuff just digs into your skin like crazy and as soon as you get home, the first thing you want to do is take it off, but after a full work day wearing this one, I was in no hurry to take it off.

But my favorite thing about this bra is how I feel in it. There are certain items of clothing you will find that, for one reason or another, you will want to wear all the time – a business suit that makes you feel more powerful, a dress that makes you feel sexier, a pair of slacks that make you seem slimmer and taller or a blouse that hugs your curves in all the right places and makes you feel like a model. When I wear this bra, I can’t stop smiling. It gives me a little extra boost of confidence.

I will have to get myself an extra one of these because I know I’m going to be wearing it often so I could use a spare just in case. Now if only they made this one in navy blue as well…


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Intimate Insight: I’m How Big??!! (And Other Lessons I Learned From My Bra Fitting) by Enid

6 Dec

Curvy Gal Enid

When Moira first suggested that I go for a bra fitting and write about my experience, I started thinking back on my bra shopping history and realized that except for one time as a teenager when my mother took me to a department store for a fitting, I’d never been properly fitted.  In fact, I’m not really sure how I knew my size.  I know in college I was a C cup and after that my next recollection is of some girl younger than me wrapping a paper tape measure around me at one of those chain lingerie stores and declaring me a 42D.  Otherwise it seems that I would just stay with the same band and cup size until they didn’t fit anymore, and then I’d move up until something seemed to work and stick with that until they stopped fitting; basically bra size by trial and error.

So when the bra style that had formerly been so dependable started failing on me, I decided it was time to be properly fitted and, on Moira’s suggestion, I went to the Wizard of Bras in Monrovia, California.  I figured that they would confirm that I was pretty close to the size I had been wearing previously….and I was more looking forward to finding some new bra styles to wear.  Instead, I got quite an education on how to find the right bra.

Lesson #1: I’m a 40G… or sometimes 38H??!!!
I remember going to a Halloween party with a woman who was a J cup and had to have her bras specially made and being thankful I was only a D.  So when the woman doing my fitting told me my cup size, I couldn’t believe it.  The stores I usually shop at stop at double D and they seemed to fit… except for the boob slipping out under the underwire or through the front neckline in my plunge cut bras.  But still, a G cup seemed so… large!  Are my boobs really THAT big?  And why the two sizes?  Because…

Lesson #2: Just because it says it’s your size, doesn’t mean it is.
Just as women’s clothing sizes are not consistent across stores or brands, bras that say they are your size (in my case 40G) may not actually fit.  When they don’t fit, the solution is to either go up one cup size and down two inches or vice versa.  So for some of the bras I tried on, I found that 38H’s fit better than 40G’s. (Warning: if you do go up a cup size, make sure that the underwire isn’t digging in to your armpit.  It won’t feel uncomfortable at first, but four hours later you’ll want to rip the darn wires right outta the thing.)

Lesson #3: You’re putting it on wrong.
For my entire life I’ve put on my bra the same way.  Arms through the straps, hook it in the back and adjust boobage as needed.  The problem with doing it this way?  By putting the bra on straps first, I allowed my breasts to be pushed down in the front so that when I was hooking it in the back, the band was now slanted.  If the band is on a slant, it can no longer do the job of holding the girls up.  I always thought it was the straps that held everything up, but in reality it’s all in the band.  The proper way to put on a bra?  Hook it around you first just above your waist like a belt, then pull it up to just under your chest, keeping the band horizontal and making sure that the band stays below your shoulder blades. Then put the straps on and lean forward to adjust your breasts to make sure they are fully in the cups.  Also, when you first get a bra, start hooking onto the outer most loops first, not the inner ones.  As time goes by, the band will stretch out more and then you will slowly work your way to the next set of loops and so on.  If you start with the innermost eyehooks, you have nowhere to go when the band stretches and you end up shortening the useful life of your bra.

Lesson #4: As with clothing, some styles will just not come in your size.
One of the frustrating things about having such a large cup size is that the cute styles I love and want to wear often don’t go higher than a D cup.  Even finding colors in my size can be a challenge.  I used to have a bra drawer that was all colors of the rainbow and now just trying to find a red bra to match my cute red underwear has turned out to be an impossible task.  Fortunately, as I’m starting to find online, it is possible to find some cute styles and colors in sizes for the more well-endowed. While my local mall may be lacking in all the colors of the rainbow, the internet and a credit card can bring it all to my door and all while I’m spending my time doing something more worthwhile… like working out at the gym or getting a massage.

Lesson #5: Finding the right bra is like finding the right pair of jeans.
You have to do the footwork and try on a lot of different styles, cuts and sizes until you find the one that fits just right. And sometimes the one that seems to fit great at the store, may stretch out or take on some other personality quirks a few weeks later that may give you buyer’s remorse.  So if you find one you like enough to buy, don’t buy a bunch that same day.  Give it two weeks and see how things go.  If you still love it, go back and stock up on a couple extra.  Other times, the bra may be almost perfect, but it just needs an adjustment.  I try to avoid bras that have those bones in the side wing because they always end up bending and then drilling into my side.  If I end up with a bra that has those stays, I always cut them out right away.  Another bra I bought ended up taking off some skin because of some sort of adhesive used on a seam in the band that had become rock hard.  I was able to cut part of it off and then have a seamstress cover the rest up with a bit of fabric, and now it fits great without torturing me.

Here are some of the bras I’ve gotten so far:

Le Mystere Dream Tisha # 965
I’ve always had a thing for molded bras, but am told they are not common for my size so I was happy to find this sexy little number.  I have had to adjust the straps some as I’ve continued wearing it, but the support is as dependable as ever.

Parfait Jeanie Plunge # 4801
I have some low cut shirts that I enjoy wearing so I was really happy to find this style.  And for once I don’t suffer from three-boob syndrome that used to be common when I was wearing a smaller cup size.  How you adjust the straps on this one is definitely important to get the right fit.

Elomi Hermoine # 8120
This is another great fitting bra.  It has some slight molding in the cup that makes it great for under T-shirts and the straps fit great.  Just be sure you get the correct cup size.  I was originally given a GG cup and after a couple hours, the underwire in my armpit started to make me feel like someone was shoving wires into the skin.

Fantasie Esme # 2471
This bra is my favorite to wear and the most comfortable.  It’s not good for low cut shirts, but fits great under everything else.  The straps are comfortable and I barely notice I’m wearing anything under my shirts.  I‘ve even slept in this bra.  I have two of these and wish they came in more colors.

If you live in the Los Angeles or Orange County area and are fed up with ill-fitting bras, take a trip to the Wizard of Bras in Monrovia, California.  And if you are a large breasted gal like me, I hope the lessons I learned will help you on future bra shopping excursions.


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